By Diana Kelly
If you want to have more sex, better sex–heck, why not both—you’re going to have to ditch some bad habits, create boundaries in your career and home, and stop crash dieting. Here are some everyday problems that could be putting the kibosh on your best sex life ever—and how to remedy each problem.
1. Your phone is an unwelcome threesome.
Whether your phone sits on the table next to you at dinner, is in your hands while watching TV with your partner, or you can’t stop playing Candy Crush in bed enough to notice that your guy’s been subtly putting the moves on you, you need a digital detox. Tell your partner that you’ll both designate certain nights of the week as “phone-free nights” so you can have conversations and quality time without interruptions. If you need another reason to get your phone out of the bedroom, researchers also say it’s a good idea to stop using electronics at least an hour before bed so the blue light emitting from them doesn’t interfere with your sleep.
2. Fido and Fluffy won’t leave the bed.
Having your cat or dog in your bed might make you feel calmer or safer, but your partner isn’t okay with them being there—or you feel like they’re cramping your love life—you might need to limit the time your bed spends in the bedroom. “Many of our successful couples have pets and many sleep with them,” says Elizabeth Schmitz, love and marriage expert who co-wrote Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage with Charles Schmitz, in an article she contributed to on WebMD.com “Some put the pets outside the bedroom because they don’t want them to watch,” she says. “Others give them a treat to distract them. Some don’t mind if the pet stays on the bed.” Charles Schmitz says what needs to be addressed first is how both people feel about the pet being there. “If one person is fine with the dog, but the other isn’t, then you’ve got a problem,” he says. “You absolutely have to talk about it and make sure both people are comfortable with the situation.” Make sure you snuggle with the less furry of your bedroom companions, the experts suggest. “The snuggling and the holding and the touching