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What We Know About the Big O

Every woman wants one: an orgasm. Whether having solo or partnered sex, climaxing signifies crossing the finish line of satisfaction.

But, the female orgasm is pretty elusive: Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t. We know less about it than we do the male orgasm. And there’s a lot of misinformation about the female orgasm floating around on the Internet.

Here’s what we know for sure about the female orgasm:

#1: Not all women climax during penetrative sex

It’s common knowledge that only about a third of women orgasm from intercourse alone. It’s not something to be ashamed of or that needs to be fixed; there are ways to finish. This is because most women require clitoral stimulation to get there and many partnered sex positions don’t allow for that contact.

#2: Masturbation can help you get there

Just because you can’t come from sex doesn’t mean you’ll never have an orgasm. Take matters into your own hands, by masturbating. The more you know what you like and what works, the more likely you’ll be able to orgasm during the act itself. You can use your hands and/or a sex toy such as a vibrator, which will help stimulate the clitoris.

#3: There are different types of orgasms

Scientists have identified four distinct types of orgasms for women: clitoral, vaginal, blended and multiples. Clitoral and vaginal orgasms focus on each respective area, but a blended orgasm involves both for a stronger finish. And multiples are individual orgasms that occur one right after the other. Play around to see which technique(s) work for you.

#4: A stronger pelvic floor means better orgasms

Don’t skip those Kegels! Strengthening your pelvic floor will increase your chances of achieving sexual satisfaction. Kegels work the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, which are responsible for contracting your pelvic muscles during an orgasm. Kegels tone these muscles for a better future orgasm. The Mayo Clinic recommends three daily sets of 10 Kegels for upkeep.

#5: Foreplay is not optional

Whether you’re having sex with a partner or with yourself, it’s important to get in the mood first. Women take longer to get aroused than men, and both the body and the mind need to be stimulated. When preparing for sex, solo or not, you can begin stimulation by using a vibrator on erogenous zones, priming yourself for a bigger, better finish.

Even though we don’t know everything about the female orgasm, just yet, we know a few very useful things. Use the above tips to start, or continue, your journey to sexual satisfaction.