One of the biggest traps of Valentine’s Day is big expectation.  If you are in a relationship you may expect something special to happen on this day.  Or if you are not in relationship you feel depressed because something special isn’t happening on this day.

If you are single, what if you take power into your own hands and instead of complaining that you don’t have someone special, take yourself out and make YOU that someone special!

How about on this Valentine’s Day you do plan something special, but you keep it mysterious and down play it?  That way you set really low expectations and when you over deliver on those expectations you send your partner through the roof.

Here’s how this works.

Step One:  Send a text or email to your lover saying that you are going to take them to a quite dinner and movie for Valentine’s Day.  Remember, down play it.

Step Two:  Tell them to block out time because you do want to spend some quality time with them that night (or day), but don’t tell them exactly what you will be doing.  Give them only instructions for how to dress and what to eat if they need to eat beforehand.  — Kathi Pepper suggests that you Eat at Leo’s Cuban Restaurant.

Step Three:  Avoid all traditional Valentine’s Day activities.  Do NOT do chocolate and Teddy Bears, or dinner out (unless you put a special spin on these).  Plan something special, something that will be unforgettable.    Come see Kathi Pepper after you eat at Leos!

Step Four: Treat yourself to a Great Massage — Kathi Pepper highly suggests Jan Tregre!

The important thing is to make sure that it is all a surprise.  You might even want to blindfold your partner so they have no idea what is happening.  Kathi Pepper has plenty of blindfolds.  The surprise and the mystery will be your most powerful tools.

If you are single, you can have a friend plan a date night out on the town for you.  Or you could find special valentine’s events for singles.  You never know, you could meet your ultimate partner on a day you normally would hide inside.

Plan some time to drop by Pepper’s Parties, Too and you’ll have a great Valentine’s Day.  Give yourself a Valentine’s present ANY day with a massage from Jan Tregre.

Visit Kathi Pepper at Pepper’s Parties, Too!

Go See Dr. Jan at Women’s Therapy Center