As a couple, don’t let your children come between you.
I mean that literally and figuratively. I meet a lot of couples whose primary issue with lack of sexual activity is they have a child sleeping in between them. As I write this, I realize that at least one of the partners in the relationship will probably not agree with me – the one who wants the child in the bed. The problem isn’t just the lack of sex, but the lack of intimacy which is so important to staying close to one another.
With a child in between you it’s nearly impossible to snuggle in the middle of the night or wake up early for a quickie, not to mention the obvious that it’s difficult to have sex in general. I mean, how does that work? You go sneak into their bedroom while they’re in your bed to have a quickie? That means there’s no time for romance and taking your time to enjoy each other. You’re just trying to “get it over with” before your child hears you. This makes me sad because without sex and intimacy, you’re just roommates.