It’s no secret that a quickie is sometimes the hottest option (or possibly the only option) but generally speaking, foreplay is not to be skipped. Why? Many reasons. Foreplay stimulates both partners’ sexuality, lowers inhibitions and increases emotional intimacy, and implies a certain level of confidence and trust between the partners.
When it comes to foreplay, there is no one size fits all – It really depends on knowing your partner’s preferences and your own. It can incorporate sexually suggestive language such as flirting and teasing and of course, physical touch. Today, we’re focusing on the latter.
Next time you’re ready to seduce your partner, keep these erogenous zones – and these toys – top of mind!
The Mouth & Lips
The mouth and lips are one of your body’s most sensitive areas and there’s much more to it than the fact that we have many sensitive nerve endings there. Early life events like nursing mimic kissing and lay down important neural pathways in a baby’s brain that associate kissing with positive emotions that continue to be important in throughout his life. From the delicate to the hungrier, more aggressive type, kisses work their magic by setting off a whirlwind of neurotransmitters and hormones through our bodies that influence how we think and feel. Punctuate your soft kisses with gentle (or even not-so-gentle) bites and sucking on your partner’s bottom lip – The dichotomy created will leave your partner guessing yet relaxed, and definitely wanting more.
The neck is a highly erotic area with the added bonus of being accessible even in the most public of places which means your foreplay can begin early on. Pay close attention to the clavicle, the back and the nape of the neck. If you want to keep the love bites (aka hickeys) to a minimum, use your tongue and your breath to arouse this hypersensitive area, alternating between hot and cool breaths. If your lover holds their stress in their shoulders, try Touch or Wish for massage on their stress points as an extra special treat before you get started with your mouth.
Also easily accessible are the ears. This should be taken full advantage of long before you and your partner are ready to strip down – A slow warm-up can lead to serious passion. Nibble the lobes, lightly lick the ear’s curvature, whisper your deepest desires, kiss, and alternate your breath from hot to cool to stimulate this area.
The Nipples & Breasts
For both women and men, the nipples and the breast can provide stimulation to the point of orgasm. Don’t worry if you don’t quite reach that level – Caressing, nibbling, and kissing this area of the body is sure to invigorate you and your partner. Because there are two breasts (or nipples) to consider, we suggest experimenting with Sync. You can use it as a nipple clamp on one side as you use your tongue and breath to arouse the other nipple, adjusting the pressure with your hand as the vibrations take care of the rest of the work. Speaking of vibration settings, incorporate the bounce, cha-cha-cha, and tease settings to add an additional element of surprise to the mix. If your partner prefers a softer touch, cup the bottom of the breast while holding Sync in your hand (in a horseshoe position, open-side up) moving in a clockwise motion to gently massage the entire breast.
The Inner Thigh
The inner thigh is sometimes missed entirely due to its proximity to genital area but slow down because this is another area of the body that you should be sure to cover during foreplay. In addition to using your mouth and fingers to softly caress this area, consider incorporating something light to the touch, like a feather or your nails, to tickle and tease your partner. If your positioning allows for it, incorporate some light touch to the back of their knees – another sensitive yet often missed area of the body – to mix things up.
Assuming your partner is not too ticklish, the feet and toes are another place to devote some of your foreplay focus. Thanks to the many nerve endings located here plus the fact that the area of your brain associated with genital stimulation happens to be right next to the area associated with tactile sensations, you may have your partner moaning before you even get above their ankles.
The sensitive tissue surrounding a man’s testicles is packed with nerve endings. Packed. Holding, cupping, and very gently rubbing or massaging them is very sensual and adding the vibration of the Wish by We-Vibe will likely be the thing that puts him over the edge.
Drive her crazy by alternating between any We-Vibe vibrator and pleasuring her orally here. The clitoris, which is located at the top of her vulva where her labia connects, has thousands of nerve endings and is the primary source of stimulation for many women.
Pleasurable for both men and women, the perineum is the space between your genitals and your anus which, when stimulated with fingers, a We-Vibe vibrator, or your mouth, can skyrocket your foreplay experience. Don’t be afraid to add a little pressure, especially as your partner becomes more and more aroused. Want to treat your guy to an extra special experience? Surprise him with Verge, our perineum stimulating penis ring, and allow him to control the rumbly vibrations while you focus your attention on pleasuring his penis.
Yes, foreplay adds time to your sexual adventures but we say it’s time very well-spent… Have fun!